http://say-nine.com This Is Going To Hurt You More Than It Hurts Me Mon, 05 Mar 2012 19:00:23 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://say-nine.com/03/selfish/ http://say-nine.com/03/selfish/#comments Mon, 05 Mar 2012 19:00:23 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=730 The simple truth is sometimes we have a responsibility to put on a happy fucking face and support the one who has supported us. But takers like myself see only as far as our own needs

]]> http://say-nine.com/03/selfish/feed/ 0 http://say-nine.com/11/reblog-who-defines-your-ds/ http://say-nine.com/11/reblog-who-defines-your-ds/#comments Tue, 29 Nov 2011 17:01:57 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=636 Recently I’ve seen people on multiple forums, including FetLife, Twitter, blogs, issuing proclamations regarding what qualifies a D/s relationship. How the D should manage the s. How the s should communicate with the D. Outright notices issued that if the s does not follow protocol 1, 2, and 3, they are not a true s. Declarations that a slave is better or more valuable than a submissive and that a switch is a joke.

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]]> http://say-nine.com/02/what-about-the-children/feed/ 6 http://say-nine.com/01/compersion-its-whats-for-dinner/ http://say-nine.com/01/compersion-its-whats-for-dinner/#comments Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:15:11 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=119 I sit here happy. I am happy that she will get to experience the rush of having someone treat her like a Queen. I am happy she will enjoy his company and conversation. But most of all I am happy that she knows I am happy for her.

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