http://say-nine.com This Is Going To Hurt You More Than It Hurts Me Mon, 05 Mar 2012 19:00:23 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://say-nine.com/03/selfish/ http://say-nine.com/03/selfish/#comments Mon, 05 Mar 2012 19:00:23 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=730 The simple truth is sometimes we have a responsibility to put on a happy fucking face and support the one who has supported us. But takers like myself see only as far as our own needs

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]]> http://say-nine.com/02/is-kink-a-choice/feed/ 8 http://say-nine.com/07/why-do-you-want-to-hurt-me/ http://say-nine.com/07/why-do-you-want-to-hurt-me/#comments Mon, 18 Jul 2011 23:38:35 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=486 A first clue lies in the fact that I get similar enjoyment from mental anguish experienced by a consenting partner as I do from physical suffering. The suffering that shadows the eyes of someone licking cum off the floor triggers an excitement in me rivaled by the thrill of feeling the primal resistance of a body fighting against the pain of my teeth sinking deep into their flesh,

]]> http://say-nine.com/07/why-do-you-want-to-hurt-me/feed/ 9 http://say-nine.com/07/informed-consent/ http://say-nine.com/07/informed-consent/#comments Wed, 13 Jul 2011 22:55:35 +0000 Saynine http://say-nine.com/?p=458 I suggested that a weekend would not be enough recovery time and that she should consider taking several days off, which she did. I also asked several times on several days if she understood that the sort of play I had in mind -heavy impact play, including paddles, canes, fists, and well as choking, and intense humiliation and other psychological play- could result in injuries that could result in a need for medical intervention. I made it clear that this was not my intent and I would endeavor to prevent this, but that I did need verbal confirmation that she understood. And she did.

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