Comments on: Safe Call http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/ This Is Going To Hurt You More Than It Hurts Me Fri, 09 Mar 2012 08:57:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kyle http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Kyle Fri, 08 Jan 2010 04:10:07 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-33 Excellent advice. And I think you're right, if someone can't understand or respect the need for a safecall, they're probably not a good play partner. Excellent advice. And I think you're right, if someone can't understand or respect the need for a safecall, they're probably not a good play partner.

]]> By: pixie http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-19 pixie Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:35:25 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-19 wonderful advice and a much needed reminder, for both the new and experienced! wonderful advice and a much needed reminder, for both the new and experienced!

]]> By: The Mistress Didi* http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-18 The Mistress Didi* Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:02:16 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-18 GREAT article! I will highly recommend to all the newbies, with your permission, of course! GREAT article! I will highly recommend to all the newbies, with your permission, of course!

]]> By: kahlanas http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-15 kahlanas Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:18:10 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-15 The only reason I dont have a safe call in place is because I never meet anyone alone. Master is always with me when I play as well. Guys who try to get me alone are cut from the potential play list immediately because everyone knows up front that Master will be there if nothing more than a monitor for me. The only reason I dont have a safe call in place is because I never meet anyone alone. Master is always with me when I play as well. Guys who try to get me alone are cut from the potential play list immediately because everyone knows up front that Master will be there if nothing more than a monitor for me.

]]> By: tygerbaby http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-14 tygerbaby Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:08:50 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-14 Ah, a voice of reason! I wouldn't play with a new person without a safecall and play with anyone at all without a safeword. Ah, a voice of reason! I wouldn’t play with a new person without a safecall and play with anyone at all without a safeword.

]]> By: ThatOddChick http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-13 ThatOddChick Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:05:23 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-13 That is a seriously smart idea, its as important as safe sex or safe anything really, hell I do it when I'm flying solo and meeting someone new for a coffee date! That is a seriously smart idea, its as important as safe sex or safe anything really, hell I do it when I’m flying solo and meeting someone new for a coffee date!

]]> By: Hisowned http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Hisowned Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:39:36 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-11 Hello Saynine :) I wish to take a moment to introduce myself, I am Herowners's slave from "masterslaves" on twitter. Although I have only left two comments on the twitter account I do read it regularly and have noticed your responses which eventually lead me to your online journal. I hope you enjoy expressing your views and receiving interesting comments. :) I have been a strong and vocal advocate with regards to safe calls both with friends who share my proclivities as well as friends who enjoy a more vanilla lifestyle. I think it is important to ensure a safe call or numerous safe calls are in effect simply because it does take time to know a person and people can be different in person compared to online and through telephone. When pet came to our home the very first night both Master and I had made sure she had arranged a safe call and once she was in our home I gave pet a tour of the house, showing her every nook and cranny of the home as well as showing her where the telephones were and actually turning them on so she could hear a dial tone. I think it is just as important for the people hosting the evening to ensure the guest feels safe and comfortable as it is for the guest to arrange for her/his safety. When it comes to actual times for safe calls I have often been a firm believer in ensuring the calls are periodically throughout the evening and that the host understands calls will be made, at random, throughout the night and should a call not be made emergency actions will be taken by my safe call person. Fortunately I never needed to have any emergency actions taken but I think it is crucial that such systems are put in place. I have had numerous conversations with people regarding safe calls and I am often surprised when people say they think making such a call would be rude or would ruin the moment. I think what could ruin the moment more would be if someone killed me, harmed me, kidnapped me - those are mood breaks, a quick call simply creates a small pause. I appreciate you speaking about such an important issue and I will be sure to venture over here again. Have fun with your journal. ~Hisowned Hello Saynine :)
I wish to take a moment to introduce myself, I am Herowners’s slave from “masterslaves” on twitter. Although I have only left two comments on the twitter account I do read it regularly and have noticed your responses which eventually lead me to your online journal. I hope you enjoy expressing your views and receiving interesting comments. :)

I have been a strong and vocal advocate with regards to safe calls both with friends who share my proclivities as well as friends who enjoy a more vanilla lifestyle. I think it is important to ensure a safe call or numerous safe calls are in effect simply because it does take time to know a person and people can be different in person compared to online and through telephone.

When pet came to our home the very first night both Master and I had made sure she had arranged a safe call and once she was in our home I gave pet a tour of the house, showing her every nook and cranny of the home as well as showing her where the telephones were and actually turning them on so she could hear a dial tone. I think it is just as important for the people hosting the evening to ensure the guest feels safe and comfortable as it is for the guest to arrange for her/his safety.

When it comes to actual times for safe calls I have often been a firm believer in ensuring the calls are periodically throughout the evening and that the host understands calls will be made, at random, throughout the night and should a call not be made emergency actions will be taken by my safe call person. Fortunately I never needed to have any emergency actions taken but I think it is crucial that such systems are put in place.

I have had numerous conversations with people regarding safe calls and I am often surprised when people say they think making such a call would be rude or would ruin the moment. I think what could ruin the moment more would be if someone killed me, harmed me, kidnapped me – those are mood breaks, a quick call simply creates a small pause.

I appreciate you speaking about such an important issue and I will be sure to venture over here again.

Have fun with your journal.

~Hisowned

]]> By: Ice Empress http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Ice Empress Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:35:02 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-10 Nicely said and something that should be considered by all. Nicely said and something that should be considered by all.

]]> By: Kat http://say-nine.com/01/safe-call-2/comment-page-1/#comment-9 Kat Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:23:39 +0000 http://say-nine.com/?p=45#comment-9 To an extent, I use this when I am meeting a photographer that I have not previously worked with. It just makes sense when meeting anyone you dont know. In addition, if I am in any situation where my friend, me and the person in question are present, I use it slightly differently. If the situation doesnt look too savory, I will work "chicken pie" into a conversation and that is my friends signal of "I dont think Im in a good situation, get me out of here." To an extent, I use this when I am meeting a photographer that I have not previously worked with. It just makes sense when meeting anyone you dont know.

In addition, if I am in any situation where my friend, me and the person in question are present, I use it slightly differently. If the situation doesnt look too savory, I will work “chicken pie” into a conversation and that is my friends signal of “I dont think Im in a good situation, get me out of here.”

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