Comments on: Confidence and Broken Fingers

By: kinkylittlegirl

kinkylittlegirl — Tue, 05 Apr 2011 03:10:00 +0000

I quite agree with all of the other comments. I’d like to just add that the sheer ability – and willingness – to not only apologize and to take responsibility for the mistake to your partner herself, but to even be willing to talk about it with others, is one of the kinds of things that actually *most* inspires confidence and trust in most submissives. Shit does indeed happen, but what separates the men from the boys, and the doms from the HNGs and abusers, is precisely that empathy and willingness to show your human, caring side. Sadly, all too many “dominants” don’t get any of that, and think it somehow undermines their domliness to apologize for anything or acknowlege mistakes.

I’m really enjoying your blog; I’m glad I came across it!

By: Kitty

Kitty — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 00:11:39 +0000

Wow, this was very beautifully written, and I thank you so much for sharing this. Everyone makes mistakes, and I am thankfull to you for being brave enough to come forward and admit yours.

By: Mistress K

Mistress K — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 13:02:57 +0000

I never laughed so hard in all my life “My God what would Jay Wiseman say?” In all seriousness the truth is we will make mistakes and we need to have enough confidence to get past them and learn from them. Thanks for sharing

By: Vin

Vin — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 12:41:03 +0000

awwwwwww <3

By: bailey

bailey — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:52:20 +0000

“My God what would Jay Wiseman say?” So, we know you didn't lose your sense of humor! Love it.

By: Endurance « Pieces of Jade

Endurance « Pieces of Jade — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:34:06 +0000

[...] and in real life. In that wonderful serendipity of internet and real life interweaving, SayNine was just discussing that over on his blog [...]

By: amiss

amiss — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:22:50 +0000

saynine,
I believe your words speak volumes solely because you were forthcoming to admit such an error. To error is human and I think sometimes Dominants are held at a higher level, one much higher than should be expected. For me, it is more about intent than about making mistakes and from all you shared, your intent was not to cause such harm, but rather to have an exchange that was perhaps challenging but also intimate and one where the goal was pleasure.

The greatest lessons, at least for me, are when things do not go according to plan.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

~His

By: rondiel

rondiel — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 20:44:47 +0000

I thank you for this…I am learning a lot from what you've written so far.

By: ~M

~M — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 10:44:36 +0000

I believe that this admission of mistake and the willingness to share the story speak volumes to your level of care and respect you have for your partner.

By: Kristi

Kristi — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 09:13:33 +0000

My jaw dropped when I realized what was about to happen in the scene and I can only imagine how her hands felt.

I'm glad that you've bounced back from this. Everyone makes mistakes. It takes strength to learn from our mistakes and to regain what it was we lost when we made the mistake.

It's great to read about a mistake a Dom made because all too often I hear about these supposedly perfect Doms. I always call bullshit. Your blog is refreshing, Saynine. Here's to many more posts.